Confidence opens the world
Not having enough confidence to stand up and do whatever you want to do..
Lets say what you have to do, but you cant because you feel insecure.
Talking to your boss or maybe just talking to a beautyful woman on the bench you see every morning. Or to talk infront of people and shake because youre so nervous.
So how can we fix the lack of confidence in ourselves in these situations?
First of all before we solve problems, we have to know why and how these problems are caused.
I give you the WHY: Because the situation is new and you havent had any practise ..Or you had practise but fear the answer and what might happen!
OR you just really dont know how to do it!
It is the same as starting a new project and not knowing what will come and if it will work out.
HOW is this caused in the first place?
It is simple, YOU OVERTHINK !
Then you try to make up things in your head and to remember them when you finally can stand and step up. And than ..you forgot it all.
Lets take the example with a boss in a company: She/he said you have to work 3 more hours because he/she wants it so – no payment.
You dont like it and get upset. What do you do?
KNOW what to say and specially NO! It needs to come first otherwise some will shrug it off and cut your word.
Tell her/him how you feel and if they dont like it, it will be their own problem. You have a contract and no one can tell you to do more than what is written in it.
They only have power over you when You let them.
You dont have to be agressive.
You can even laugh it off and leave.
Know your rights and that fear is only in your mind.
No one is going to hit you because you said no to unfairness!
You have to understand that confidence is just a different word for “Knowing what to do and being fully aware that i do it”.
Now how can you boost your confidence to talk to the woman you laid your eyes on for so long ?
To boost it, you have to do it often! Your heart is pounding because you fear to get an rejection due to the lack of practice!
The more often you talk to woman, the easier it will get and you will learn how to stay calm and not get devastated over rejections.
It doesnt even matter what you would say to her as long as you yourself stay behind your words.
Maybe she is reading a book? Ask her about it!Is she just sitting and enjoying the weather?
Sit next to her and do the same without talking.
But dont overthink and stress yourself to start a conversation.
Sometimes conversations start with silence!
Speaking in front of a big audience and youre already shaking ?
Well here you apply the same.When it is your first speech in a bigger audience, it will be a good lesson if you fail it!
There is nothing to be ashamed of and no one will talk about it in the next day.
But sometimes everything becomes more smooth when it just starts and you suddenly realise that it turned out way better than you expected.
Someone who spoke more often in a bigger audience will automatically be more confident because he/she knows how it will be.
They will know how to talk and their heartrate will be much slower than a beginner.
It is all because they’ve done it before!
When your body and brain knows how it will feel, they will adapt to it. Like a boxer who sparr’s before fight’s to condition himself getting hit in the face!
To be a master in something, you have to practice constantly and put yourself into the situation!
Thats for today happy tree friends,
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See ya next time and much appreciation
